The two of us got together last night, our usual Wednesday night coffee date while our daughters were at their Awana Class. Typically we use this time to discuss our website, catch up on our lives and just chat. But last night? We both had heavy hearts. My husband has been on the road for six weeks, and our lives have been hectic. Andrea mentioned that she and her husband were just passing at the end of their day – stuck in that same rut that many of us get stuck in when we have jobs, and kids, and other commitments!
This morning, she texted me “Let’s do the Love Dare!”
It’s something we’d talked about before, that it would be good to do. But we both dragged our feet, too busy to really focus on this 40 day project. So when I got her text this morning, I knew it was something that I needed to consider doing! And we decided to do it here, on the blog, in hopes of both committing ourselves to the full challenge, and hopefully inspire someone else to take this journey as well!
So please, hop in and join us on this The Love Dare!
Love Dare Day 1
Love is Patient
The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose to not say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.
I started out today wondering “How the heck am I going to complete this??” Thursdays are busy at our house, so my communication with my husband is incredibly limited on Thursdays. So I was certain I wouldn’t even have the chance to practice my patience with him. (What a bummer of a way to start this new challenge, huh?)
Turns out? I had a huge instance where I needed to practice patience. I had to calm down and wait to respond. Then I had to watch my mouth so I was extra sure to be nice about what I said!!
I don’t know if he noticed that I was biting my tongue, but I sure did! (And it definitely made me feel better, to know I took the high road!)
So… here’s to tomorrow 🙂
As I rushed right into the day. I realized that I didn’t even take time to really acknowledge Mike (my hubby). Before leaving the house I probably didn’t say more than 20 words to my husband. So after I read the first day dare. I realized I had not been loving at all 🙁 So throughout the day when I had the opportunity to show love I went above and beyond to slow down long enough to express my love for him. And even though there was times I had to hold my tongue because he didn’t communicate with me as I expected him to and made myself act in love in action (patience)!
Even on day 1 I realized that I love to point fingers as why we have grown into separate lives (work, hubbies, commitments, etc.), but it made me reflect I’m completely guilty on creating that life. So my focus in the next 40 days is to focus on my husband’s needs and not my own!