Love is thoughtful
How precious also are Your thoughts to me. . . .
How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them,
they would outnumber the sand. —Psalm 139:17–18
Contact your spouse sometime during
the business of the day. Have no agenda
other than asking how he or she
is doing and if there is anything
you could do for them.
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I’m so guilty of not following this on a daily basis. I don’t call unless I need something. Never. And I will pick up stuff if I know he needs/wants it, but I’ll rarely call (or text) just to say “Hey hon, do you need anything?”
Today, I did it. (I half wonder if he thought I was crazy – just asking out of the blue!) And sure enough, I got a list. (A small one, but a list.) I grabbed a few extra things while I was out too – still feeling on a slight high from yesterdays cap-gun purchase! And I decided to grab the ingredients for one of his favorite dinners – something we don’t have often because it’s pricier. (YAY Beef! **snicker** )
I’m not sure if he’s noticing a difference yet, which if I’m being honest is a bit frustrating. I want instant gratification. But I’m definitely feeling better about things. I know that I am putting an effort in places where I haven’t for a long time, and that’s a good step in the right direction.
I found this is one of my strengths. I naturally go out of my way to be thoughtful, but I can tell you it’s a lot easier to be thoughtful to someone when they are thoughtful to you. But it means more to someone when you’re thoughtful when they don’t “deserve” it. So today was one of those days. I had felt pulled in all directions, but I still found time to ask Mike it there was anything I could do for him and let him know I was thinking of him. To my surprise he said “no”, and he told me he was just talking to his boss about how “easy” our marriage was. That made me feel good, because I’ll be honest some days it doesn’t feel easy at all, but at least he don’t have un-needed pressure in our marriage 🙂