Love is not rude
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him.
Ask your spouse to tell you three
things that cause him or her to be
uncomfortable or irritated with you.
You must do so without attacking them
or justifying your behavior. This is
from their perspective only.
The words from the mouth of a wise man are gracious. (Ecclesiastes 10:12)
I have to say today was hard for me. I felt myself different times during the day wanting to responde rudely. Thankfully I held my tongue and avoided an fight. Here I am a girl that wants to act like I have it all together, but when backed against the wall I find my tongue wanting to react rudely. Boy have I’ve been missing out oppotunities to show love…
Today was too easy for me… We’d just had this discussion (in the form of an argument) a few days prior – so it was all fresh in our minds. So when I asked him this question, he felt like I’d been listening to him previously. That I wanted to revisit this as a discussion rather than an argument and that I actually cared what he had to say about it!
(BRAVO!! This is the point of the whole thing, after all! Isn’t it?)
We never like to hear the things about us that someone else finds to be less than desirable. It hurts. It just plain sucks. But, it also can give you an idea of what you need to improve about yourself – especially when it comes to what you’re bringing to the marriage table.