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Love Dare – Day 2, Love Is Kind

Love Dare All Things Pueblo

Day 2 – Love is Kind

Today’s mission is to continue yesterdays goal of not saying anything negative, but also to do at least one gesture of kindness that is unexpected!

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.  Ephesians 4:32

Unfortunately for our husbands, most of our day was spent being kind to others! We loaded up my car, our kids and a whole bunch of turkeys for our Thanksgiving Basket drive! It was an incredibly wonderful day, but our husbands were pretty much left out as we spent 10 hours driving around Pueblo!

Jacque Dare

Since my husband is still out of town, I had to do today’s task via technology.

First, I sent him several random text messages. Normally our texts are quick, news related. “The kid refused dinner.” or “Hey, I need you to do this…” So today? I made a point to send him several messages, thanking him for all he sacrifices for our family.

Then, after I sent the kiddo to bed – it’s been a long day for her – I sat down to write him an email. It was long, wordy and full of fluffy gushy words. (Which is TOTALLY not normal for me…) I listed a few moments in the past few weeks that I was sincerely grateful for. I told him how I was looking forward to our upcoming Thanksgiving holiday – being spent at home, together – rather than surrounded by our loud and (wonderfully) crazy families!

Sure, I’d have loved to have done something for him. Buy him a gift, cook him dinner, etc. But with him being 1500 miles away today, it wasn’t possible. So technology related “kindness” will have to do!

(Perhaps I’ll go clean out his half of the closet – so it’s actually usable for him!! I suppose I could stand to donate some of the outfits I don’t ever really wear anyway, right?? Then, it’ll be a delayed act of kindness for when he finally makes it home – but none the less unexpected!)

Andrea Dare

As Jacque already shared our day was spent together and Mike was in Lamar on business.  So we didn’t talk all that much, but I did make a point to be kind to him and listen to him when he called to check on us.  Part of todays dare was not to say anything negative and thankfully I was never put in the position to be negative 🙂

I just want to say that as I sit here on my sofa watching my hubby watch a video on his iPad.  I am so thankful for my husband and the life that I have been blessed with!

The Love Dare Challenge – Join Us!

Love Dare All Things Pueblo

The two of us got together last night, our usual Wednesday night coffee date while our daughters were at their Awana Class. Typically we use this time to discuss our website, catch up on our lives and just chat. But last night? We both had heavy hearts. My husband has been on the road for six weeks, and our lives have been hectic. Andrea mentioned that she and her husband were just passing at the end of their day – stuck in that same rut that many of us get stuck in when we have jobs, and kids, and other commitments!

This morning, she texted me “Let’s do the Love Dare!”

It’s something we’d talked about before, that it would be good to do. But we both dragged our feet, too busy to really focus on this 40 day project. So when I got her text this morning, I knew it was something that I needed to consider doing! And we decided to do it here, on the blog, in hopes of both committing ourselves to the full challenge, and hopefully inspire someone else to take this journey as well!

So please, hop in and join us on this The Love Dare!

Love Dare Day 1

Love is Patient

The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose to not say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.

Jacque Dare
I started out today wondering “How the heck am I going to complete this??” Thursdays are busy at our house, so my communication with my husband is incredibly limited on Thursdays. So I was certain I wouldn’t even have the chance to practice my patience with him. (What a bummer of a way to start this new challenge, huh?)

Turns out? I had a huge instance where I needed to practice patience. I had to calm down and wait to respond. Then I had to watch my mouth so I was extra sure to be nice about what I said!!

I don’t know if he noticed that I was biting my tongue, but I sure did! (And it definitely made me feel better, to know I took the high road!)

So… here’s to tomorrow 🙂

Andrea Dare
As I rushed right into the day.  I realized that I didn’t even take time to really acknowledge Mike (my hubby).  Before leaving the house I probably didn’t say more than 20 words to my husband.  So after I read the first day dare.   I realized I had not been loving at all 🙁  So throughout the day when I had the opportunity to show love I went above and beyond to slow down long enough to express my love for him.   And even though there was times I had to hold my tongue because he didn’t communicate with me as I expected him to and made myself act in love in action (patience)!

Even on day 1 I realized that I love to point fingers as why we have grown into separate lives (work, hubbies, commitments, etc.), but it made me reflect I’m completely guilty on creating that life.  So my focus in the next 40 days is to focus on my husband’s needs and not my own!